May 1, 2017
Erika W. is a weight and wellness coach and a very recent sexual
abuse survivor. This is Erika’s commentary on her first
recorded conversation with Torah. They both have some very
important feedback on the post-assault process that is very helpful
and educational for viewers, survivors and supporters of
survivors. This part ends on a very hopeful, positive note.
PLEASE watch Part 1 (Episode 16) where Erika shares her story on
film for the first time. It just so turns out that that is
Torah’s very first time to release her story on film, too, so we
are seeing a dual debut.
We will continue checking in with Erika throughout this season
to document her journey. This is a very rare opportunity to
see what a survivor goes through from the very beginning––the
immediate aftermath of assault––and how the process plays out over
time. We hope that you continue to come back and refer to
this story, as well as all our other survivors’ stories, as an
educational resource and to help spread awareness about the facts
of our assault impacts us.
April is Sexual Assault Awareness
Month (SAAM). In solidarity with #SAAM, we have placed their
teal ribbon on this month’s episodes. Teal is the official
color of SAAM. The teal ribbon is the symbol of sexual
violence prevention. Please read the episode synopsis for
more information about #SAAM and how you can help and/or be helped
as a survivor.
IN THIS EPISODE YOU’LL LEARN:
- Erika and Torah discuss why it’s important to tell others
(whether publicly or privately) about our stories: we need to
speak or the trauma and grief will remain stuck in the cells of our
bodies and cripple us.
- The rare opportunity to record a story of a survivor in the
immediate aftermath of assault
- The shame and self-blame Erika felt while processing the
aftermath of assault
- How sharing her story with Torah has helped Erika release fears
of judgment, process her traumas, and feel lighter
- The patterns of survivors that Erika has noticed when sharing
her story with others––patterns that have helped her become more
free of self-judgment and fearing others’ judgments
- AND rape is NEVER the victim/survivor’s fault! Our
society needs to STOP blaming the victim and letting the
perpetrators roam free on this planet. Rape/sexual assault is
NEVER okay and should NEVER go unpunished.
LINKS AND RESOURCES FOR THIS EPISODE:
- Sexual Assault Awareness Month (for info about SAAM, sexual
assault on college campuses, and their work. The NSVRC/SAAM team is
available for interviews and is a resource for reporting on sexual
Call/email for help.
- Grief Recovery Method (for physical and emotional losses, to
find grief support groups and for a free ebook for info on the
various kinds of grief): www.griefrecoverymethod.com
- RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network):
live chat. Get help 24/7. Free and confidential.
Call/chat if you’ve been violated.
- Hold Me Right (a beautiful documentary about the
aftermath of sexual assault; check out the trailer): www.holdmerightfilm.com
- See S1Ep16: Erika W. on the Immediate Aftermath of
Sexual Assault & Torah’s Story On Film for the First Time + Is
Rape Co-Creative? for the common patterns of shame and
self-blame a survivor goes through
- See S1Ep18: Sarah Alexis on How to Make Art Out of
Darkness: Writing and Speaking Poetry for a 1-minute audio-only
episode with subtitles set to beautiful cherry blossoms and
- See S1Ep17: Brian Young on How Education Provided Him
an Escape from Suicide and the Shocking High Rates of Suicide and
Depression Among Native Americans for how trauma is woven
into the DNA of Native Americans